Social Proof
Fun connects you to others — social proof for your bravery
When you play with someone — even briefly — you get feedback: smiles, laughter, surprised delight. That social feedback is powerful. It’s immediate proof that you’re interesting, likeable, and okay as you are.
Connection also expands your sense of belonging. The more you belong, the more you risk, and the more confident you become.
[Look to the audience, make eye contact with a few people.]
Quick 90-Second Practice — “Micro-Connection”
We’re going to do a tiny exercise. Nothing creepy. Nothing personal. Just 90 seconds of friendly play to prove the point.
Turn to the person next to you — left or right, whoever’s closest.
Look them in the eyes — actually look. Not the forehead, not the chin. Eyes. Hold for one breath. [Pause 2 seconds.]
Smile. Say, in a normal voice: “What’s one small thing that delighted you today?”
Listen for 15–30 seconds. Nod. Thank them. Switch roles.
I’ll time us. Ready? Go.
[Give a clear, warm countdown. Walk the room slowly while they connect. After 45 seconds say: “Switch.” After 90 seconds gently call everyone back.]
[Pause until the room settles. Smile.]
How’d that feel? Small? Maybe a tiny jolt? That’s it — a micro-win. You made eye contact, asked a better question, and practiced presence. Those actions are tiny confidence deposits.
Practical Tips to Turn Fun into a Confidence Habit
Schedule small play: Block 20 minutes this week for something mildly ridiculous — a silly playlist, a 10-minute imagination walk, or a goofy photo challenge. Put it on your calendar like an important meeting.
Lower the bar: Aim for “interesting” not “perfect.” Fun is not a performance. It’s an experiment.
Reframe failure: When something flops, laugh and file it as data. “That was awkward” becomes “That was informative.”
Recruit a buddy: Pair up for micro-challenges. Having an accomplice makes risk-taking easier and more fun.
Celebrate small wins: Track tiny victories. One-minute videos, one offbeat comment, one unexpected dance. They all add up.